More on Our Upcoming Series

There are four main areas that cause stress for wives and moms:

1. Lack of time management or schedule
2. Lack of organization
3. Lack of self care
4. Fighting and other destructive behavior

This new series will cover the first 3 areas and will be followed by another series on the last.

My hope with this series is that our homes will be blessed with a foundation that our families can build on. That we will help to reduce the stress for ourselves and our husbands so that they may better lead us and we may find it easier to respect them in what is often considered “our domain”.

With a harmony created between husband and wife, I pray the next series will lead us even further as Godly families!

I so love writing for you all and look forward to learning with you!




New Series: Setting Yourself up for Success

Are you feeling overwhelmed?

Do you need to refocus your life?

Does your home stress you out?

Do you feel like you are not the best you could be?

Join me in a new series

We’ll be learning together how to bring God into every little moment to help us be the moms, wives, sisters, and daughters He has intended us to be.

A few things to look forward to:

Finding time for personal prayer and Bible study
Home Journal
Meal Planning
And more!




Create in Me a Clean Heart

Have you ever stopped to think how truly awesome God is?

How amazing is it that he knows our sin and still loves and forgives us anyways?

In fact, he not only does this thousands of times but he offers us salvation from this fallen world.

How awesome is He!

Did you know that the word used in Genesis 1:1 for create (amas in Greek) is the same word used in Psalm 51:10? It literally means “to create something from nothing”. He is truly recreating us when we accept Christ and faithfully follow Him! What could be more miraculous?

1 Have mercy upon me, O God, according to thy lovingkindness: according unto the multitude of thy tender mercies blot out my transgressions.

2 Wash me throughly from mine iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin.

3 For I acknowledge my transgressions: and my sin is ever before me.

4 Against thee, thee only, have I sinned, and done this evil in thy sight: that thou mightest be justified when thou speakest, and be clear when thou judgest.

5 Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me.

6 Behold, thou desirest truth in the inward parts: and in the hidden part thou shalt make me to know wisdom.

7 Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean: wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow.

8 Make me to hear joy and gladness; that the bones which thou hast broken may rejoice.

9 Hide thy face from my sins, and blot out all mine iniquities.

10 Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.

11 Cast me not away from thy presence; and take not thy holy spirit from me.

12 Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit.

13 Then will I teach transgressors thy ways; and sinners shall be converted unto thee.

14 Deliver me from bloodguiltiness, O God, thou God of my salvation: and my tongue shall sing aloud of thy righteousness.

15 O Lord, open thou my lips; and my mouth shall shew forth thy praise.

16 For thou desirest not sacrifice; else would I give it: thou delightest not in burnt offering.

17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise.

18 Do good in thy good pleasure unto Zion: build thou the walls of Jerusalem.

19 Then shalt thou be pleased with the sacrifices of righteousness, with burnt offering and whole burnt offering: then shall they offer bullocks upon thine altar. 

Ladies, how often do we thank Him for all He has done for us? 
Do we allow Him to shine through in our lives?
I heard a story recently I will share with you here:
Remember the favorite t-shirt you had in high school? The one you wore so often, it is now see through in some areas, has a frayed hem and new holes every washing. Would you wear it to an interview? Or a party? Or even out in public?

Of course not!

Would you buy a new shirt, cut it up and patch the holes?

Of course not, you’d wear the new shirt!

Are we doing this with our lives though? 

Do we continue to “wear” our old ways, patching them with a Bible verse here and there to say “see? I’m a good Christian!”?
Oh dear friends, I pray each of us feels the conviction to remove the “old shirt” of our past and put on the new shirt that Christ has offered us. 
Why wear this….
When you could wear this?

And We’re Back After the Break

You may have noticed I’ve been a little quiet lately.

About a month ago, I decided to take a break from writing. I didn’t announce it or even say anything in the group. I simply took a step away from the blog while continuing the work on the page and in the group.

I’m hear to loudly proclaim a small victory though.

For the first time in my life other than when I’ve been pregnant, I weigh more that 100 pounds!

You may wonder why this is such a big deal.

You see, I have an inner demon. It goes by many names depending on the day, but most days, it’s known as anorexia.

I have been in recovery for the last 7 years and it’s been a roller coaster.

When I was a very little girl, my mother enrolled me in ballet.

I was in love!

I drank in every moment, relishing the freedom that dance brought me.

Until I was 12.

That year, a teacher told me, and I can still hear her voice clear as a bell

“If you ever weigh more than 100 pounds you will be fat”

It stuck with me and shaped every decision I made after that.

When I quit dancing at 16 I ate my first McDonald’s meal. I wanted to prove to that teacher that it didn’t matter. That I could eat what I wanted.

But I was lying to myself.

Even though I would eat the fast food, I wouldn’t eat enough the rest of the day.

I averaged somewhere around 800 calories.

This journey has brought me so much pain, guilt and sorrow but with the help of God I am finally, officially declaring that I am done!

I’m saying goodbye to controlling my meals or simply not eating.

Goodbye to worrying about my weight.

Goodbye to judging myself in the mirror.

And lastly, goodbye to the anxiety and guilt every bite brought.

No longer will I allow food to dredge up memories of the past that I cannot change.

I give this challenge and the victory to God and I am so thankful to be blessed by His faithfulness!

He will see me through.




Your Husband and Children Are Not the Enemy

It’s late in the evening.

Your children are crying, refusing to go to bed.

The dishes are sitting all of the kitchen, still waiting to be done.

A pile of laundry covers your bed, keeping you from sleep.

Your husband is late again

And you’re not sure if the bills got paid this month.

You’re tired.

Your feelings are valid friend–embrace them! It is not so important how we feel, but what we do with them. The Bible tells us that our feelings our fleeting and deceitful (link), indeed our hearts and minds can best be described as schizophrenic. One moment we are angry, yelling at our children, upset with our mother, disgusted by something our husband has said or done…..and then we flip. We love our children, our husband is the greatest on the planet and our mother is a saint.

Friends, our husbands and children are not the enemy. Even when they fail us, when they fight us, when they disrespect us–they are not the enemy.

There is only one true enemy and he is named in the Bible.

Do not allow him to ever convince you otherwise.

He and those who serve him will try to tear you down when you are at your most weak.

He will manipulate your feelings and thoughts to serve his purpose if you let him.

Stand firm in God.

Do not waver in your faith.

Love them anyways.

Forgive them anyways.

Help them anyways.

Pray for them always.

But please know—no matter how many arguments you have with your husband, no matter how your children behave in public, no matter how much your family drives you up a wall—they are not your enemy. They are a blessing from God and He will use each of you to grow the others. (Disclaimer: this does not ring true for abusive situations. If you are being abused, please reach out for help. God does not support or condone abuse.)

Ladies, don’t give into the temptation of broken spirit, of bad attitude and poor outlook. God promises that He will crush our adversary if we turn to Him (Romans 16:20).

Surely, again and again, God promises that He will be there for us and give us victory over any problem we give to Him if we only do so with faith, trust and our whole heart (see here).

I personally don’t think that is much to ask, is it?

Ladies, I encourage you to give your whole life, heart and mind to Him. Ask Him to help you to see your life, your family, the world you are living in the way He would have you do so. I promise you, this simple step, this little shift, will radically change your life.




When Struggles Cause Us to Stumble

The last four weeks have been a real struggle for me.

After getting transferred, I suddenly lost all contact with my husband.

My heart aches and my mind constantly worries.

I’m constantly checking the news and touching base with other wives to see if anyone has heard anything.


And then in the back of my mind I hear a favorite song:

In the calm of your presence
I am listening Lord
I am still
I am quiet
I am yours

His presence is calm, all I have to do is surrender and listen.

Ladies, my faith has been shaken this last year more than it ever has been in my life. I’d like to ask all of you to join me on this journey this year.

A year of getting closer to God and drawing closer to positive influences in our lives. Surrounding ourselves with loving sisters and strong brothers.

I will be the first to admit, I am a control freak—I like things clean and organized, I like having a plan and I like to know exactly what is going on.

That is not His plan though.

Will you join me in letting go and surrendering to His plan?




Are We Complaining When We Should Be Praising?

Psalm 34

I will praise the Lord at all times.
I will constantly speak his praises.
I will boast only in the Lord;
let all who are helpless take heart.
Come, let us tell of the Lord’s greatness;
let us exalt his name together.

I prayed to the Lord, and he answered me.
He freed me from all my fears.
Those who look to him for help will be radiant with joy;
no shadow of shame will darken their faces.
In my desperation I prayed, and the Lord listened;
he saved me from all my troubles.
For the angel of the Lord is a guard;
he surrounds and defends all who fear him.

Taste and see that the Lord is good.
Oh, the joys of those who take refuge in him!
Fear the Lord, you his godly people,
for those who fear him will have all they need.
Even strong young lions sometimes go hungry,
but those who trust in the Lord will lack no good thing.

Come, my children, and listen to me,
and I will teach you to fear the Lord.
Does anyone want to live a life
that is long and prosperous?
Then keep your tongue from speaking evil
and your lips from telling lies!
Turn away from evil and do good.
Search for peace, and work to maintain it.

The eyes of the Lord watch over those who do right;
his ears are open to their cries for help.
But the Lord turns his face against those who do evil;
he will erase their memory from the earth.
The Lord hears his people when they call to him for help.
He rescues them from all their troubles.
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted;
he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.

The righteous person faces many troubles,
but the Lord comes to the rescue each time.
For the Lord protects the bones of the righteous;
not one of them is broken!

Calamity will surely destroy the wicked,
and those who hate the righteous will be punished.
But the Lord will redeem those who serve him.
No one who takes refuge in him will be condemned.

It doesn’t say sometimes.
It doesn’t say when it is easy.
It doesn’t say when I feel like it.
It says: I will bless the Lord at ALL times.

When you are in the thick of it:
You have lots of littles
You have lost your income
Your home is a disaster
Life just doesn’t seem to be going right
Praise Him!
Praise Him for the dirty laundry: you have a family with clothes!
Praise Him for the messy house: you have a roof!
Praise Him for the lack of funds: He is showing you your true needs and teaching you to be creative!
Praise Him in every challenge for the skills He is giving you.
Ladies, He is faithful at all times.
When others fail you, He is there!
He knows your heart better than you do, how could we doubt His providing?
So I challenge you, instead of complaining today, try praising Him and see how your day goes.

Facing Life’s Challenges

The last year has been a trial for our family.

My husband came home from a 14 month deployment.

We battled for custody of our little Rho (his bio father is currently in and out of jail for abuse, drug, alcohol and other charges).

We moved to a farm.

We moved to a larger home.

We started the foster to adopt process.

We surprisingly got pregnant with Evie.

We went through a separation.

We faced financial challenges (that thankfully were recognized before disaster)

My husband deployed again.

I had our daughter after 28 hours of labor without my husband.

We moved in with family to pay off debt and save to buy a home to create stability.

We’re still in the thick of it—we’re still facing challenges every day.

Evie has several allergies and Rho has been sick since Christmas (he is now getting tested for autoimmune disorders).

Here’s what I’m learning though: God provides!

Our marriage did not fall apart thanks be to Him

Our debt will be paid off in full next month

My husband is safe despite being in a war zone

Our children are getting excellent care with the help of a supportive team that God lead us to

And most of all, God has protected us from the dangers of my ex. All the praise goes to God for getting us out of that situation 4 years ago before Rho was born! Rho has known a wonderful and loving father in my husband and will never face the abuse that we could be living in if God had not led me to an amazing woman of faith.

In the times of trial it is hard to see the light but it is always there. God is always there even if he feels distant.

When you are feeling the most down, take a moment to write down all the blessings that God has brought you. Number them and hold them close to your heart. God provides in the darkest of times. If you can’t see the light–be the light!




When God Asks Us to Sacrifice

As a little girl, I remember flipping through magazines, dreaming of the life I would have someday as a wife and mother.

The home I would build–the meals I would prepare–the fun things I would do with my children.

But sometimes, God asks us to put all these plans on hold.

God never promised life would be easy, but he does promise to never forsake us.

Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the Lord thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.

Deuteronomy 31:6
Our attitudes when we are met with these challenges and subsequent challenges can deeply determine the amount of time we spend in trial–we are either helping or hindering the process.
Often, it feels unfair when God asks us to sacrifice so our spouse may learn a lesson. 
But who are we to question God’s plan? Do we really know better? Why is it so hard to humble ourselves and say “God, I give this to you, please help me through”?
Because we are human!
We want things to be stable, comfortable and good all the time!
That’s not how this works though, not for anyone no matter how much money or success they seem to have.
What determines our level of success is not our own skill or production, but how we help others in times of need. 
We all know the song: “this is my commandment, that you love one another that your joy may be full!”
God tells us that in our own sacrifices, when we help other, we will find joy!
What a wonderful promise!
Ladies, if we are able to adjust our attitudes and mindset, just think of the blessing we might be to our families, friends and those around us.
Is this something you can commit to? Could you commit to praying for others instead of about them? Could you commit to God’s plan instead of pushing for your dreams right now?
I will leave you all with this thought and prayers for all of you in this week ahead!