When Struggles Cause Us to Stumble

The last four weeks have been a real struggle for me.

After getting transferred, I suddenly lost all contact with my husband.

My heart aches and my mind constantly worries.

I’m constantly checking the news and touching base with other wives to see if anyone has heard anything.

Silence.

And then in the back of my mind I hear a favorite song:

In the calm of your presence
I am listening Lord
I am still
I am quiet
I am yours

His presence is calm, all I have to do is surrender and listen.

Ladies, my faith has been shaken this last year more than it ever has been in my life. I’d like to ask all of you to join me on this journey this year.

A year of getting closer to God and drawing closer to positive influences in our lives. Surrounding ourselves with loving sisters and strong brothers.

I will be the first to admit, I am a control freak—I like things clean and organized, I like having a plan and I like to know exactly what is going on.

That is not His plan though.

Will you join me in letting go and surrendering to His plan?

Blessings,

Audrey

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Are We Complaining When We Should Be Praising?

Psalm 34

I will praise the Lord at all times.
I will constantly speak his praises.
I will boast only in the Lord;
let all who are helpless take heart.
Come, let us tell of the Lord’s greatness;
let us exalt his name together.

I prayed to the Lord, and he answered me.
He freed me from all my fears.
Those who look to him for help will be radiant with joy;
no shadow of shame will darken their faces.
In my desperation I prayed, and the Lord listened;
he saved me from all my troubles.
For the angel of the Lord is a guard;
he surrounds and defends all who fear him.

Taste and see that the Lord is good.
Oh, the joys of those who take refuge in him!
Fear the Lord, you his godly people,
for those who fear him will have all they need.
Even strong young lions sometimes go hungry,
but those who trust in the Lord will lack no good thing.

Come, my children, and listen to me,
and I will teach you to fear the Lord.
Does anyone want to live a life
that is long and prosperous?
Then keep your tongue from speaking evil
and your lips from telling lies!
Turn away from evil and do good.
Search for peace, and work to maintain it.

The eyes of the Lord watch over those who do right;
his ears are open to their cries for help.
But the Lord turns his face against those who do evil;
he will erase their memory from the earth.
The Lord hears his people when they call to him for help.
He rescues them from all their troubles.
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted;
he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.

The righteous person faces many troubles,
but the Lord comes to the rescue each time.
For the Lord protects the bones of the righteous;
not one of them is broken!

Calamity will surely destroy the wicked,
and those who hate the righteous will be punished.
But the Lord will redeem those who serve him.
No one who takes refuge in him will be condemned.

It doesn’t say sometimes.
It doesn’t say when it is easy.
It doesn’t say when I feel like it.
It says: I will bless the Lord at ALL times.

When you are in the thick of it:
You have lots of littles
You have lost your income
Your home is a disaster
Life just doesn’t seem to be going right
Stop
Praise Him!
Praise Him for the dirty laundry: you have a family with clothes!
Praise Him for the messy house: you have a roof!
Praise Him for the lack of funds: He is showing you your true needs and teaching you to be creative!
Praise Him in every challenge for the skills He is giving you.
Ladies, He is faithful at all times.
When others fail you, He is there!
He knows your heart better than you do, how could we doubt His providing?
So I challenge you, instead of complaining today, try praising Him and see how your day goes.
Blessings,
Audrey
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Facing Life’s Challenges

The last year has been a trial for our family.

My husband came home from a 14 month deployment.

We battled for custody of our little Rho (his bio father is currently in and out of jail for abuse, drug, alcohol and other charges).

We moved to a farm.

We moved to a larger home.

We started the foster to adopt process.

We surprisingly got pregnant with Evie.

We went through a separation.

We faced financial challenges (that thankfully were recognized before disaster)

My husband deployed again.

I had our daughter after 28 hours of labor without my husband.

We moved in with family to pay off debt and save to buy a home to create stability.

We’re still in the thick of it—we’re still facing challenges every day.

Evie has several allergies and Rho has been sick since Christmas (he is now getting tested for autoimmune disorders).

Here’s what I’m learning though: God provides!

Our marriage did not fall apart thanks be to Him

Our debt will be paid off in full next month

My husband is safe despite being in a war zone

Our children are getting excellent care with the help of a supportive team that God lead us to

And most of all, God has protected us from the dangers of my ex. All the praise goes to God for getting us out of that situation 4 years ago before Rho was born! Rho has known a wonderful and loving father in my husband and will never face the abuse that we could be living in if God had not led me to an amazing woman of faith.

In the times of trial it is hard to see the light but it is always there. God is always there even if he feels distant.

When you are feeling the most down, take a moment to write down all the blessings that God has brought you. Number them and hold them close to your heart. God provides in the darkest of times. If you can’t see the light–be the light!

Blessings,

Audrey

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When God Asks Us to Sacrifice

As a little girl, I remember flipping through magazines, dreaming of the life I would have someday as a wife and mother.

The home I would build–the meals I would prepare–the fun things I would do with my children.

But sometimes, God asks us to put all these plans on hold.

God never promised life would be easy, but he does promise to never forsake us.

Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the Lord thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.

Deuteronomy 31:6
Our attitudes when we are met with these challenges and subsequent challenges can deeply determine the amount of time we spend in trial–we are either helping or hindering the process.
Often, it feels unfair when God asks us to sacrifice so our spouse may learn a lesson. 
But who are we to question God’s plan? Do we really know better? Why is it so hard to humble ourselves and say “God, I give this to you, please help me through”?
Because we are human!
We want things to be stable, comfortable and good all the time!
That’s not how this works though, not for anyone no matter how much money or success they seem to have.
What determines our level of success is not our own skill or production, but how we help others in times of need. 
We all know the song: “this is my commandment, that you love one another that your joy may be full!”
God tells us that in our own sacrifices, when we help other, we will find joy!
What a wonderful promise!
Ladies, if we are able to adjust our attitudes and mindset, just think of the blessing we might be to our families, friends and those around us.
Is this something you can commit to? Could you commit to praying for others instead of about them? Could you commit to God’s plan instead of pushing for your dreams right now?
I will leave you all with this thought and prayers for all of you in this week ahead!
Blessings,
Audrey
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Creating a Workable Routine

Oh routines

What is it about you that is so complicated?

Before I get further into this topic, take a moment to read my previous post here.

Routines should work for you.

They should be specific to you.

You should not worry what anyone else is doing.

Once you have those three things in mind, you are golden and can work on writing out your own.

Before you start, try to clear your mind–write down everything that is bothering you and put it off to the side.

Find some quiet space, maybe wait until the children are asleep or consider talking with your husband about taking a “Mama Day” once a week. Head to a coffee shop, the library or other favorite place alone with your laptop and notebooks to work on your schedule, menu, shopping list and whatever else you may need to get done.

Use what helps you! I love colored pencils, calendars, plain notebooks and sticky notes to help me organize. Do what works for you. If you haven’t tried this process before, consider trying a few different strategies. Grab a store bought organizer, some different sized notebooks, calendars, note cards, whatever you think may help you! The dollar store is a great place to look for these!

Do another brain dump: jot down the things you want to get done daily and weekly. Write down activities, household maintenance requirements, church commitments and anything else going on in your life. Now is a great time to see where you could scale back.

Then get to work putting your routine together in a way that works for you.

Love sticky notes? Pick one color for daily activities, another for weekly, and another for monthly. You can do this with colored pens or pencils as well.

Like using a notebook instead of a calendar? Experiment with columns, boxes, flow charts, time slots, whatever you come up with!

Most importantly, have fun. Give yourself at least 3 weeks to get into the swing of a new routine. Don’t be discouraged if your first try doesn’t quite work. Go back to the drawing board, tweak and try again.

Blessings,

Audrey

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Decluttering

Oftentimes, we tell ourselves “Our home is a mess! I MUST clean this up!”

And then we never start.

Beginning to clean a home can be overwhelming, especially if you don’t have a good foundation to start with.

This month I will be talking about this foundation starting with how to declutter.

It seems like such a simple concept, but if it were, we wouldn’t be drowning in clutter.

This month, don’t worry about cleaning your home, worry about creating good habits.

Commit that for every one item that comes into your home, three will leave.

Grab yourself a large box or basket that can live by your front door. Items for donation go in this box and as soon as it is full, away it goes!

Basic decluttering shouldn’t be hard or painful. Walk into any room in your house and pick up the first 3 things you see that are either trash or not needed. Put them in your box and you are done!

Do this every day in each room and you’ll find yourself feeling lighter and more organized.

In the next few weeks I’ll be going into cleaning (along with what I use to clean!), deep cleaning, deep decluttering and organizing.

I hope this encourages you to get started!

Blessings,

Audrey

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More On Love

Last month, I started our fruit of the month talking about Love.

God has put it on my heart to talk about this further and more in depth.

Over the weekend I watched Fireproof with my son. I was so impressed to see how this movie touched him and the lessons he took away from it.

Beyond the obvious, “fire is dangerous and scary” he, on his own, commented on how the adults were treating each other.

This is what I want to talk about ladies.

How often do we respond with emotion rather than thought?

How many of us still by into the world’s definition that love is a feeling rather than a choice?

Love is not something we fall in or out of. Even God will not force us to love him:

That thou mayest love the Lord thy God, and that thou mayest obey his voice, and that thou mayest cleave unto him: for he is thy life, and the length of thy days: that thou mayest dwell in the land which the Lord sware unto thy fathers, to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob, to give them.
Deuteronomy 30:20

What would happen, ladies, if we chose to really love God the way he calls us to? What if we listened to how he says we should love our husbands, family, friends and neighbors? How much change could we bring about? What kind of light and influence would we be?
I hope this has given you something to think about as much as it has for me.
Blessings,
Audrey
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