One Year Ago

This month, one year ago, I started this blog! Below is a repost of the first two posts I wrote and thought you may enjoy again!

Intro: It’s all about attitude

If you are a member of the Facebook group, a few days ago you saw a post I wrote asking “where has the beauty gone”?

As a culture we have moved into a world of “girl power” but how this truly translates is “boys are stupid, throw rocks at them”. We, as women, are not longer expected, let alone supported or encouraged, to be what God created us to be.

The Bible says that a virtuous woman is worth far above rubies (Proverbs 31:10). What an exclamation! What does virtuous mean though? What is God calling us to be?

While it is easy to get caught up in the doing of life, trying to achieve all the things on our to do list, it is easier still to lose sight of the heart he calls us to have. That is where we will figure out what he is calling us to be! That is attitude! That is character!

As we begin this challenge, we will be studying our way through Proverbs 31. Our first focus will be on our heart, our attitudes, our relationships with God. We will then shift focus to the “doing” part of what God has set before us. None of us will ever be perfect, but if we use God’s word as our guide in our lives, we will be richer for it.

Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.
Psalm 119:105

Blessings to all of you and I will see you Sunday for our first Bible study post!


In my intro post, I asked the question “where has all the beauty gone”? Maybe a better question would have been to ask “where have our attitudes, our morals and our character gone”? In our world, so much pressure exists around us to have beautiful homes, nice clothing, to never age and to always look “sexy”. However, this is not what God calls us to do or be.
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. 1 Peter 3:3-4

Painting by: Emile Vernon

He’s telling us that it’s not what is on the outside that counts, but what is on the inside. It begins with our heart, our mind, our attitude.

As I thought about this post, I read back through many journals I’ve kept over the years and various Bible studies that I’ve done and compiled a list of what a Godly woman is called to be. The list is long, but what jumps out to me is how contradictory it is to what society tells us is okay.

God calls us to have pure heart and mind, to be self controlled, discreet, kind, merciful, loving, helpful, respectful (especially to our husbands), trustworthy, reverent, wise, charitable, careful in our choices, gentle, thoughtful, modest, and full of distinction. How different from what we see on television, in movies and in magazines now!

What amazes me though, is that if you read books on etiquette or older novels, this list is how they judge a lady. God is calling us to be noblewomen! Ladies are not born, they need not have wealth, they are made and judged by their actions. How similar this is to Matthew 7:16:

Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles?

Now that we know what God wants for us in our attitudes, how do we achieve this? First, it’s about being purposeful. He does not expect us to be perfect:

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 2 Corinthians 12:9

Always remember, we all make mistakes. It’s right in the Bible as well (Romans 3:23) what is important is to cry out to God to help us get back on track.

Purposeful actions that we can take:
Keeps a list of the attitude God calls us to have. Keeping Bible verses with this list can also be powerful.
Keep a journal to keep you accountable, better yet, have an accountability buddy!
Do a Bible study on Godly womanhood (we’re doing one on this blog)
and most importantly

Keeping what we are seeking on the forefront of our minds daily is an important part of success. Deuteronomy 11:18 tells us

Therefore shall ye lay up these my words in your heart and in your soul, and bind them for a sign upon your hand, that they may be as frontlets between your eyes.

(Found on a favorite blog: Strangers and Pilgrims on Earth)

We cannot change on our own, we need the grace of God. Every day we need to call to him, ask him to guide us, to help us through the tough times. To give us patience and kind words when our children are being temperamental. To give us humility when we make mistakes. To be respectful of our husbands when they say no to something we thought was a wonderful idea. God does not promise life will be easy or instant change, he does, however, promise to always be there for us.

This week, make an effort to carve out a little time to spend with God on your own. Take some time to develop a deeper relationship with him. Talk with him about what he says a Godly woman is and how that applies to your life. We are all in different places and it’s important to remember that our paths will not all look the same. Talk with him, take notes on these things and what you are feeling lead to be. Keep these in front of you and make an effort each day to delve a little bit deeper into your calling.

Blessings and love,


This post was shared as part of the Art of Homemaking Link Up


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